Inner peace
A term that (fortunately) comes up often is ‘working on inner peace’. In other words, you can work on yourself to experience more inner peace. For me, inner peace means being and remaining in the present. That you acknowledge and accept the present moment. You give in to and express all your feelings and emotions (+/-), which keeps you balanced. You then naturally feel peaceful. You are one with yourself and your surroundings.
Often, your most important lesson is to be happy where you are. This usually doesn’t concern having the job of your life or having another relationship (although these do play an important role).
You examine the feelings and emotions that dominate, repeatedly, without judgment or opinion. At the bottom of this article, I will share a simple healing exercise to deal with dominant feelings and emotions and thus release the burden.
Of course, you can occasionally let your thoughts wander to your wishes and goals, because that is also important for staying stimulated and evolving. But a more lasting sense of peace arises when you identify with what IS.
From Shadow to Light
For several years now, we have all been in a major individual and collective transformation process. I’ve written about this before, because it still plays a crucial role in human evolution! We are transforming from head to heart consciousness, a movement that doesn’t happen overnight. For this, we must break through all the (ego) layers to heal our ancestral and personal pain and traumas.
Many consider this the most important time in history, because so much is happening within ourselves and in the world. I probably don’t need to tell you what. We now have the opportunity to heal pains that have been in our system for centuries, traumas, patterns, curses, and limiting beliefs. This usually doesn’t happen without a (inner/outer) struggle. This is also evident in how our world functions nowadays.
Many people still suppress their painful feelings. Even when these emerge in the manifestation of illness, they are still not heard.
They no longer want to feel the pain they’ve endured, either because it’s taboo, out of shame, or because it’s too painful.
But this is precisely the point: to explore and understand what your body and soul are trying to tell you about triggers and complaints. What kind of pain it is. To then feel it deeply, after which it can be released. The intense feelings linked to the pain will then disappear. You’ll also notice that you express, behave, and live differently! You’ll get closer and closer to your(inner)self and your potential!
“You need to feel it to heal it.”
If we don’t do this, to feel it deeply, we won’t process anything! As I often write in my blogs and discuss in my book “Everything starts with THE EMOTIONAL INHERITANCE of our parents and ancestors”, the memory of these pains and traumas remains in our cells. This memory can then be triggered by external events and people. We then act and react based on old pain!
Furthermore, inner individual peace indirectly affects global peace. How does this work?
Global Peace
The ideal global peace means the end of wars and hostilities between countries and peoples. This is still far from being achieved, and yet I believe in global peace.
You play an important role in this! But how, you might ask yourself? Well, because of what I wrote above about inner peace. When you take responsibility for healing your (ancestral) pain and traumas, they are no longer passed on to your children, or projected onto your partner and immediate environment. And this, in my opinion, creates peace on earth!
So, when every individual seeks and finds inner peace and harmony, then peace and harmony will reign in the world!
A simple example
If for example, I wake up feeling grumpy, and I pass this grumpiness on to my clients, they can take this feeling back home and pass it on to their children. And those children to their friends etc., with all the consequences. It’s spreads!
As I write in my book, there’s a bad dark side in each one of us; for example a criminal, or a dictator, etc. When we ignore our emotions long enough and continue to suppress unprocessed pain and trauma, they are projected onto others.
Every pain that’s ignored, screams louder…and demands more and more attention…you know what I mean? And usually, this happens in a negative way!
On the other hand, when we all take responsibility for our feelings, behavior, and thoughts and resolve the pain, more love and respect for ourselves and our fellow human beings will naturally arise, and we will no longer have the tendency to want more and more, especially power and control!
From my (deceased) mother’s diary of 2005 / her wise sayings are timeless
– Gerda Maria Weber –
A loving contact from Israel
Recently, Joanne Nihom contacted me through LinkedIn. She is Jewish and lives in Israel. She wanted to talk to me about our backgrounds. Stories that seem to have many similarities, but then again, they don’t.
She is the granddaughter of Jewish grandparents who served in the resistance during World War II. And my grandparents were supposedly “wrong” during that period. Joanne wrote to me that she was intrigued and keen to exchange thoughts with me about it. She was also working on a book about these kinds of stories.
It was a loving conversation, with mutual respect. The conclusion was that what your grandparents and parents experienced, resonates with you in your own story of life. And that it is our task as the next generation, to resolve the grief from that time, because otherwise, you’ll continue to carry it with you and pass it on!
Our conversation will definitely continue. Afterwards, Joanne sent me two of her latest books: ‘De leegte Omarmen’, about involuntary childlessness, and ‘Over Grenzen’.
Joanne Nihom – ISBN 978 90 4353 554 0
Especially her latest book (Over Grenzen) touched me. It’s a fascinating book that tells the story of what’s happening in Israel from a respectful and authentic perspective. About people who are making a positive difference. Joanne’s writing style is magnetic; you just want to keep reading. About the many positive organizations that embrace all peoples and work with all peoples.
You see……It IS possible, which I kept thinking whenever I read something in her book.
A quote from her book, and it perfectly describes my goal for this blog:
Many grains of sand
together
cause
a landslide
Let us respect and embrace each other!
With Love, Monique Angèle van de Laar
Psssst….. this blog is also in Dutch:
https://www.moniquevandelaar.nl/hoe-creeer-je-meer-innerlijke-en-wereldwijde-vrede/
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Healing exercise of 90 seconds:
As soon as a negative emotion or feeling dominates, feel it deeply. How?
- Isolate yourself and preferrably, lie down or sit down.
- Feel that negative emotion or feeling again (anger, fear, sadness, or rage).
- Let your tears flow freely, or express your anger in your own way. Don’t hold back; if necessary, hold a pillow in front of your face and scream it out or hit it.
- Don’t judge or give an opinion about what you’re feeling. Just feel.
- Do this for (at least) 90 seconds.
This way, you release the burden to do with this pain each time you feel it. You do this every time this feeling or emotion becomes overwhelming. At some point, the burden disappears, and so does the pain.